Gentelmen

  
     A gentleman is hard to find these days. Our society excepts pretty much anything from any one. And it is starting to anoy me.
      I am a mom. I have son and a daughter and my goal as a mom, is to raise my son to be a god fearing gentleman. And to raise my daughter to be a god fearing lady who does not settle.  
Most of my younger years any of the boys I was around were young men of standard, my brothers, cousins a few friends. The more I am out in society the more disgusted I get. Mainly at men who womenize and objectify women. Now I'm not a man hater. God created man and woman. And he loves them both. But I just have a quick something to say.:
      Moms, please raise your sons to be a gentlemen. Please teach him that telling a married woman that she is "so beautiful " repeatedly and non stop staring is NOT OK. Teach them that God made beautiful people for his purposes, not for a man to objectify and see only as a tool for there own pleasure. God made humans in his likness, he made them masterpeices, and it's OK to admire that, but not OK, to see that as something only for your pleasure. It's not OK to pester some one about your admiration. No matter how hot you think they are.
     I know not all men are like this. I happen to be married to one of the most respectful man I have ever met. He did not tell me I was "so beautiful untill we were engaged to get married, and he sure did not ask me to have sex with him before our marriage night. He had standard, I had standards. We both see each other as humans set on this earth to glorify God.  To love one another the way Christ loves his bride, selflessly.  Not solely as objects of pleasure for the other ones body. Yes we are married and that come with marriage, but my point is, he sees me as a person.  
      I get so frustrated when I'm walking through Walmart and some creep whistles at me, or gets just a little too close and says "hey cutie" on their way by.   That, my friends is not cool. I don't ask for that. Just because God gave me curves. And a nice face, by no means, means you have permission to get that close, or hit on me. Don't you see this huge rock on my finger!!!!!

Not only does that not boost my self esteem, it also make me feel dirty, like I'm doing something wrong. Society acts like it's all my fault because I am attracting attention to my self. When in reality I'm wearing my usual, blue jeans, a TShirt and tennies, or if I'm at the gym it's my gym pants and a tank. This is not the girls fault. It is the guy who does not know how to treat girls. This is a problem people, and I know I'm not the only girl who deals with this. Actually pretty much every girl has encountered this some time in her life. What has happened to the gentlemen????. The ones who do more than open doors, the ones who see women as another piece of God work, as humans who have more than just a body, who have a spirit and a soul? What happened to being able to causly say Hi to some one you know, with out them thinking your hitting on them? 
     I for one am going to do what I can to raise my son to see people as God creation. To keep his hands and words to himself. That it's just not ok to go around telling a girl she is just "damn gorgeous" when she already told you she was happily married. I want my son to see a woman as one of God's master prices. To fight the urge to objectify or or see only for his pleasure. I'm starting to realize how rear that is In our society. If your are a gentleman, thank you! Keep up the good work. And if you are not. We you better damn well should be.  

Thats all.
Trina